Posted by: sarahmeyers | October 17, 2007

I Love I’m In Like With You

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Online dating brings sexy back. Sites highlight not only your profile pictures, but also statistics about your every detail. You can navigate through other’s profiles or request an advanced search to find exactly what you are looking for. Finding a match can be a difficult process when there doesn’t seem to be too many options. On the other hand there are problems with what others show in their profile pictures and what you see isn’t always what you get.

Being able to flirt on the Internet is fresh. It’s something refreshing- you can live the excitement of the moment in messages and even bids on sites such as iminlikewithyou.com. Being able to communicate what you like and what you are looking for may be hard at times for many. Some people don’t have the breath of reach to flirt in abundance and turn to I’minlikewithyou.com will help you find a match. It can be a great way to flirt with someone that will lead to a face-to-face interaction.

The New York Times wrote about Match.com more than once in 1999. Among them, Bonnie Rothman Morris reported on them selling the company that became match.com for 50 million dollars. Clearly there is a lot of value to these sites that encourage flirting and dating online. A dating site, I’m In Like With You dot com gives users similar excitement stimulated in the face to face interactions we see when we come together. Social sites like iminlikeiwthyou.com “break the ice” so to speak when approaching someone for the first time.

Having a sense of exclusivity is key in building online communities where people may flirt with their networks. On iminlikewithyou.com there is exclusivity because you have to be invited into the site by a friend. I was one of the first beta testers on iminlikewithyou.com and found that in the beginning the site was only popular with the geeks and the nerds. Now it’s stepped up a bit to have attracted a large number of users who are looking to flirt and date. The site allows you to bid on “games” where you play with bidding points accumulated via activity on the site. For example, if I play a game, “I want to go to the movies” and “what’s the hottest flick playing” I may just wind up being taken out. For example, if you are new to a city it’s hard to try and figure out who to meet or where to go. With the advancement of social media we may find dates, flirt, or even maintain long-term relationships via meeting people online.

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On iminlikewithyou.com There are discussion boards where you may call for attention and interaction. You can chat with others on your profile wall. Once you log in you may hear a notification sound alerting you to a message pop out box that asks random questions. One of the questions asks, “would you make out with someone who is 20 years older?” After you answer yes of no to the popup it closes and another one pops up. The information accumulates and others may see your answers to the questions on your profile.

When courting a mate it’s important to play the game. Some write their own rules and others follow the rules of the game and the Internet gives us the ability to flirt virtually where ever we are when ever we want. The first step is to initiate a response that is favorable from the person you are courting. Many call this flirting. Flirting is a way to tell someone you are interested in them with out putting yourself in risk for a heartbreak.

When dealing with flirting on iminlikewithyou.com and other sites be cautious when meeting people face to face. When approaching a stranger for the first time you must keep in mind that they may know more about you than you know about them and may find malicious ways to manipulate you on email or social networks. As the medium of social media expands the cognitive and emotional effects follow. When meeting someone face to face for the first time it is important to meet in a public place or event. That way if anything were to happen it would be in the public eye.

The greatest thing about web 2.0 is the amount of information that can get out about a person. People trust meeting others online because of the amount of detail you are allowed to fill in. Coupled with the questions you may answer in a questionnaire or registration and the personal information displayed it’s getting dangerous to predators.
We see that over time all the comments add up and there is no where to turn to when you are held accountable for your own representation to others.

Others see what you want them to see, but when it comes to the face-to-face interactions you may see a different person than the pictures. There is a funny Myspace video that breaks down the fundamentals of finding dates via Myspace. The 01:12 mark shows a funny parody in which the Myspace users find the pictures on the profile do not capture the whole story of the woman behind them.

From talking to people who have used online dating in the past I found many were disappointed with outcome of the date. I will admit, my page on iminlikewithyou.com is a little misleading too. Two of the pictures I used are over one year old and one where I have darker hair than I do now shows how these pictures do not represent what I actually look like.

Flirting is easier than ever to do online. Leave your cologne in the bottle and take out the glasses guys, the Internet is getting frisky.


Responses

  1. Hey great story. I’m on I’m in like with you, and I think you touched on all the important points of what the site offers. It’s about time someone changed the way these dating sites work. Anyways, even if you don’t find a date, it’s still a fun site.

  2. Dating Sites have for too long been about stats that are often inaccurate. On I’minlikewithyou.com it’s about finding someone for more than what they look like in the pictures and adding the excitment of bids only makes it that much more social.

  3. No matter what Hollywood tells us, long-term relationships take patience, skill and effort. In cyberspace, unfortunately, the bar is so long and the action so quick that few people are willing to put up with even the slightest imperfection in a potential mate. If someone is the wrong height or wears the wrong shoes or makes the wrong kind of joke, he or she is often dismissed instantly. After all, it is a simple matter to go back and click, with tens of thousands of potential mates ready to fill the void.

  4. Shoes are very important – it’s often one of the first things a girl checks out on a guy ! (So I’ve been told!).

  5. Wow AndyBob! What an observation. Your comment has inspired me to perhaps write a new post or update this blog post. Have you ever heard that you can tell how rich a man is by the quality of his shoes?

    If women really do look at men’s shoes it means they are looking to see how much money he makes. Sociologist observe that the most sought after characteristics in a woman looking for a man is security.

  6. *Everybody* notices my new red-and-black checked Vans. :-)

  7. Well written and keep up the great work!

  8. hi, sarah –
    i dont know if this is the proper place for my comment but i just spent an exciting hour trying to help u set margins on your sociology paper and wish you well in your class! i myself have gone back to writing with a pen because of the complicated miserableness of word processing programs.

    really like your jtv livecast. i/m thinking of doing one with live readings of my books. do u think that would fly?

    elia

  9. I have a DS just like that, How cool

  10. @ Chris Milton- I did a little investigating on iminlikewithyou.com and myspace. Women generally describe themselves as attached to some kind of relationship. I have looked around to see what my friends put on their profiles. Many say they are athletic in body shape. Not too many say they are voluptuous. In hair color and eye color some times there are inaccurate representations or just exaggerated to say the least. Many women are looking for someone who can provide security. In many of the questions males and females are prompted to fill out how much money they make a year. Tracing the income of groups on these sites we can not quantify for general research because many people would give inaccurate numbers- inflating or deflating how much they actually make a year.

  11. iminlikewithyou sounds more funner than the typical dating sites. i’ll check it out later. sarah’s the bestest!

  12. I agree Sarah– dating sites ,along with myspace etc. often inflate statistics. I have never participated in online dating and would be skeptical to do so– for the very reasons you have ‘investigated’. I have never heard of: I’minlikewithyou.com– but will check it out after I post here. Thanks for entertaining me. Hope all is well. . . .

  13. @sarah Ahh so that explains why all the ladies in New York walk around starting down at the floor … I had heard NY women were salary obsessed! ;-)

    Actually I’m familiar with the theory of female partner selection. I’ve heard that, when looking for long term partners, women trade off the quality of a mans shoes against other attributes such as the ability to raise children and offer security.

  14. I wonder what my Vans say about me. Hmmm, I never did update my MySpace after I got the raise, either…

  15. ilove girl


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